Silence speaks volumes – why silence is destructive. In a very loud world, it seems the voices being heard are the ones that hurt.
get some hutzpa
Let me tell you a bit about my mom, who inspired this blog. When I was in middle school, she confronted the school about teaching our class how to make beer in science class. She came to a school dance, and when the principal turned the lights off during a slow dance, she quickly went and turned them back on. When my high school freshman brother filled out a questionnaire that had questions about his sexual orientation and homosexuality (this was in the mid 1980’s), she demanded to see this questionnaire to which the school refused saying it was confidential between them and their student (this was small town America folks). This all led to us being homeschooled the next year – a time when people were being put in jail for homeschooling. Our friends kids stayed at our house so they wouldn’t be removed from their home in a town that forbade homeschooling. My mother had some hutzpa (it’s a Yiddish word for nerve). She didn’t sit back on the sidelines and let these things happen … she spoke up. She loved us.
My parents really wanted us to grow up hearing truth … so they talked about it, a lot. We raised our kids in an environment where dinner discussions were really important – we had dinner as a family at least 5 nights a week. Around that table were real life talks about everything under the sun. We wanted our kids to hear our voices, our worldview (which is biblical), and as they grew older and formed their own worldview, we hoped our voices were loud in their heads. If we were silent, the world is what they would hear.
As I get older, I appreciate that more and more about my mom, and my personality definitely leans in that direction. I love justice. I hate injustice. That’s why I’m outspoken about abortion. If I had gone to a school that had bullies, I would probably be the one getting in trouble for beating up the bully.
silence speaks volumes
Unless you are living under a rock, or in a very small bubble, you are well aware of the upside down world we now live in. One thing that really bothers me about this new world is that children are being taken advantage of, abused, and experimented on more than my grandmother saw in her lifetime (96 years). If you think about all the social experiments, most of them are performed on children – who are not able to consent, not able to understand, not able to change their circumstances, and not mature enough to make informed decisions even if they are asked. This is not new, but as we are living in the “age of information” and with the dominance of social media, it makes child abuse much more accessible. This is where kids form their worldview unless they have a louder voice in their ear.
I just recently watched a documentary called “Leave No Trace” which explains the extreme sexual abuse that happened to boys in the Boys Scouts. We never had our boys attend this organization, so I was unfamiliar with a lot of the situation. It brought me to tears as you listen to grown men in their 50’s and 60’s weeping as they are still dealing with the ramifications of being abused as a child. So many people were involved in covering up this horrific string of abuse. Why were so many people silent? This abuse started in 1920 and lasted until 2020 – that’s an entire century of adults covering up and being silent. That’s a lot of generations of silence.
I also watched a documentary by Matt Walsh called “What is a woman”. This came out recently and it was about the new sexual revolution and how adults are allowing children to carve up their bodies to attempt to become the opposite sex. If you want a wake up call on what’s happening in schools and all around you, pay the money to watch the movie. You would be shocked at how casually “professionals” talk about transgenderism in very young children.
One thing I noticed about Matt Walsh in this movie was he asked a lot of questions. He rarely gave an opinion or spoke about his thoughts … he just asked the person he was interviewing pointed, direct questions. What a great way to speak up and have a voice without saying much. He let the person he was questioning speak volumes with their answers. Brilliant! You don’t have to be loud and obnoxious (you shouldn’t), but humble, thoughtful, and persistent.
Recently there was a viral video that exposed a drag queen show in a GAY BAR (yes, I said bar, like the alcohol type), where they served mocktails to kids, cocktails to adults, and had men dressed in skimpy clothing parading down a runway as young children gave them money. In bright neon lights in the background is a quote “It’s not going to lick itself”. It’s undeniable because it’s on video. The brave undercover reporter who broke this story interviewed the drag queens (while still undercover) asking them numerous questions about intent. Their answers were clear – they want to indoctrinate kids to be gay and make them ok with this lifestyle. What really boggles my mind is parents, the people that are supposed to protect kids, BROUGHT THEM TO THIS EVENT!!! You can see clips of this “show” and listen to the testimony of the brave investigative reporter first hand. He was not silent.
Why are so many people silent in standing up to abusive people?
I have a good idea of the answer. You will be ostracized, criticized, fired, cancelled, spat on, bullied, dismissed, and possibly threatened if you do (amongst other things).
But when you listen to the men who were abused from scout leaders, or kids who cut off body parts in their teens when they’re still kids and live to regret it, you should have compassion enough to risk all the things that can happen to you in order to save someone else. Are we so concerned about our own comfort and safety that we aren’t willing to risk that for innocent children who have no voice? If we aren’t willing to, who will?
why being silent is unloving
I recently listened to this great podcast about a former homosexual and his testimony of how he came to Christ, and what his life was like before and now. It’s a powerful story … one everyone would benefit from hearing. In it he says he was at a café with a friend and a bunch of Christians were sitting with open Bibles at the table next to him. After he got over the disgust of that, he asked them if they were Christians and asked what the gospel was. He also asked them what they thought about homosexuality and THEY TOLD HIM THE TRUTH! He explains how much that meant to him – how them not cowering to culture and being willing to share the truth actually showed him love. What a concept!
Jesus certainly exemplified this concept many times – the woman at the well being the most well known and discussed. Jesus had a way about Him where He could point out sin, but show so much grace at the same time. Jesus would never sit next to someone in sin, any sin, and affirm it. He would never call a boy a girl, or use “preferred pronouns”. He was well known to mix with sinners – eating at their homes, letting them pour oil on His head, spending a lot of time with what he calls “the sick”. They needed Him most. We were all sick at one time and all in need of Jesus. Jesus knew if He didn’t tell people the truth, they would end up in Hell. Telling them the truth was the most loving thing He could do.
If Adam had spoken up in the Garden of Eden, would that have changed anything?
what in the world!
In California, Bill SB145 makes it legal for an adult to have sex with a minor as long as the age difference is not more than 10 years. So a 24 year old can have sex with a 14 year old and they don’t have to register as a sex offender. Yup, you read that right. Also, school libraries all across America (small towns and big cities) are housing pornographic books, teaching kids of all ages every kind of sex – heterosexual and homosexual – and rape. If you want to see excerpts of what is in your kids libraries, sit down and read some of this. Make sure you’re sitting … you may pass out. It’s sick. How many people are speaking out against this?
WHEN TRUTH IS SILENT, LIES ARE BLARING.
If you look at culture around the world, or for simplicity sake we’ll just talk about our culture in America, I truly believe most adults are sickened by what is happening. I believe most parents want to raise their kids in healthy homes and protect them from the evil in the world. I know most would not take their kids to drag queen shows, or give them porn to read as a 10 year old. But I believe many of these great people are silent. Maybe they are afraid to speak up for the reasons I listed, or because they don’t want to lose their relationship with their child, or they’re tired of fighting culture in every area of life – I know, it’s exhausting. I’m so thankful my kids are adults .. but I have grandchildren.
Here’s the problem … if the people who want to protect kids are silent, the ones that don’t want to protect kids will win your kid. Your kids WANT you to protect them, to look out for them, to tell them what’s around the corner that they can’t see. Isn’t that our job as parents? We have life experience that shows us what the consequences are of certain actions. Kids don’t have that – they rely on us, the adults, to protect them. We need to be their voices.
why i care and why you should
If you’re an adult and you want to make certain choices and deal with the consequences, you are mature enough to do that … and, you have control over your life. But when people start messing with kids and altering their entire lives, we need to speak up to protect them. We, as people who care, need to make the voices of these kids heard. Someday they will thank you.